Gyan

 

 

I read it somewhere:

•  Love yourself first
•  See your problems as opportunities to grow and become a wiser person
•  Seek ways to find creative solutions for your personal challenges
•  Compartmentalize your problems
•  Learn to laugh at yourself
•  Do several acts of kindness each day
•  Empathize with others but don’t absorb their problems
•  Learn to compartmentalize your most difficult struggles
•  Maintain your core values and be confident about adhering to them
•  Seek advise but always make your own decisions and be accountable for them
•  Know it’s ok to leave a job if there’s an unhealthy corporate culture
•  Accept there isn’t a perfect resolution for every conflict and not every conflict warrants indefinite energy to solve
•  Seek feedback from a wise mentor
•  Embrace your positive traits so you can confidently admit to the negative ones and work at changing them
•  Reach out to your network for support and reciprocate support to others
•  Let go of a dysfunctional relationships
•  Give others the benefit of the doubt
•  Surround yourself with other happy people
•  Drop unhappy behaviours
•  Don’t think there’s a resolution for every problem or conflict
•  Don’t stubbornly persist in a fundamentally dysfunctional relationship
•  Don’t deny your core values and submit yourself to someone’s who contradicts yours
•  Let go of notion that you can manage and fix everyone else’s problems
•  Let go of fake friendships (ones that aren’t reciprocal) or ones that force you to abandon your values
•  Don’t assume you’re the only one who has struggles and problems
•  The closer you look into people’s lives you’ll find that everyone has challenges large and small and they surface at different periods of their lives
•  Don’t hold grudges
•  Don’t remain in an unhealthy corporate culture that stifles your creativity
•  Don’t allow others who know less than you influence your decisions
•  Don’t persist in defending your negative traits or negative thoughts
•  Don’t avoid feedback of all kinds
•  Don’t decline support from your network

Just !!!

"Just Tired" - she muttered.
But you could tell it was not just a lack of sleep

 

But a lack of hope and happiness
- that made her act the way she did.....

Special Moments :)

You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.

You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:

For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.

Khalil Gibran on Marriage

Wander Mind

I stumbled at my blog today after a long time. May be there is a soar in my heart which I do not want to express or may be I am too emotional at times to be a practical independent woman. I read somewhere today - Expectation are the root cause of heart ache. Oh I totally agree to it. But my only question to ask at present is why should you not expect things or few words of empathy from your near and dear ones. Is that something really big to ask for? If people have expectations way beyond your capabilities - isn't it a good thing? What is wrong in expecting a phone call from your dear friend or a text message from a friend who is miles away from you.

 

I really don't know the reason for writing this post. But there are things which I want to share and I find peace when I let my thoughts and feeling flow through this medium.

 

For a long time now - I have many a times  felt like I am standing on a riverbank just watching the water of life go by - sometimes too scared to jump in and play. May be - I have been always waiting for the perfect current to come so that I could ride all the way to the completion of my intensely detailed life goals.I never wanted to move until I was certain. Life is flowing like the water itself and as the days pass and you look back you see changes - changes in all aspects!

 

As they say going with the flow is best part of life. Some days you will  have your way and some times it will drain you out. Either way, it's experience.

Emotions Lead Nowhere

"Whether you are guided by your emotions or guided by your intellect, it leads to despair because it leads nowhere. But you realize that love is not pleasure, love is not desire.You know what pleasure is, sir? When you look at something or when you have a feeling, to think about that feeling, to dwell constantly upon that feeling gives you pleasure, and that pleasure you want and you repeat that pleasure over and over again. When a man is very ambitious or a little ambitious, that gives him pleasure. When a man is seeking power, position, prestige in the name of the country, in the name of an idea, and all the rest of it, that gives him pleasure. He has no love at all, and therefore he creates mischief in the world. He brings about war within and without.So one has to realize that emotions, sentiment, enthusiasm, the feeling of being good, and all that have nothing whatsoever to do with real affection, compassion. All sentiment, emotions have to do with thought and therefore lead to pleasure and pain. Love has no pain, no sorrow, because it is not the outcome of pleasure or desire."

Rumbling Thoughts

My thoughts are fragmented

My feelings unrealised

I am on a surreal sojourn

All alone walked in life

Dreams and hopes in my eyes

Sometimes its hard to find answers of mysterious ways of life

It's difficult to explain how one feels at times

It's stupid for some, too risky for others

But a dream and a different one is hard to achieve

Its amazing - how we forget we are mere travellers traversing this world

I have a question which keeps lingering in my soul

Why do we seek permanence when life itself is temporary?

Her Hands

Her hands held me gently from the day I took my first breath.
Her hands helped to guide me as I took my first step.

Her hands held me close when the tears would start to fall.
Her hands were quick to show me that she would take care of it all.

Her hands were there to brush my hair, or straighten a wayward bow.
Her hands were often there to comfort the hurts that didn't always show.

Her hands helped hold the stars in place, and encouraged me to reach.
Her hands would clap and cheer and praise when I captured them at length.

Her hands would also push me, though not down or in harm's way.
Her hands would punctuate the words, just do what I say.

Her hands sometimes had to discipline, to help bend this young tree.
Her hands would shape and mould me into all she knew I could be.

Her hands are now twisting with age and years of work,
Her hands now need my gentle touch to rub away the hurt.

Her hands are more beautiful than anything can be.
Her hands are the reason I am me

--- Maggie Pittman